Healing From Purity Culture
While it is completely normal to decide to abstain from sexual activity until marriage if that is within someone’s values or belief system, purity culture has caused some side effects that negatively impact men and women. Here are a few steps that may be helpful for you as you're on your journey of healing from purity culture.
Compassion & Accountability Belong Hand in Hand
A common narrative I hear from clients is that to improve, learn, or experience self-growth, we must be critical and brutally honest with ourselves. We are often taught that if we fail, we need to be tougher on ourselves, and that tough love and criticism are what push us to improve and grow. As a therapist, all I have seen these ideas do is cause harm, and I think it is time we talk about it.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: A Compassionate Approach to Reducing Shame
Shame is a complex and powerful emotion that can have a profound impact on our lives. From the perspective of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), shame is often intricately connected to our sense of self and our relationships with others. In this blog post, our focus will be on understanding how shame arises when we perceive ourselves as different from those in our environment, and how embracing the principles of EFT can help individuals reduce shame and foster a sense of connection.
“Have You No Shame?”
Shame is a common motif in the world of psychotherapy. It is one of the most pervasive and malignant psychobiological processes that I see walk through my door as a therapist, and yet, it can be one of the most challenging and painful strategies to let go of even when we know letting go of the way we shame ourselves leads to self-love, compassion, peace, ease, etc.