How to Achieve Emotional Intelligence in Marriage: Good Things Utah

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognize emotion and to use it to improve your life and your relationships. It is truly one of the most important skills you can develop as a human being, and yet it's not something we seem to talk about very often. Here are some ways to work to achieve Emotional Intelligence in your marriage.Acknowledge Your EmotionsAll people have emotions. Some may be more expressive or communicative about them, but everyone has feelings. It sounds simple, but it's important to recognize that both you and your spouse have inner experiences that influence you both.Sort and Label Emotions To be able to utilize and express your emotions, you first need to be able to identify them. The six basic emotions are happy, mad, sad, scared, surprised, and disgust. The ability to articulate in your mind, "this is what I'm feeling," will help you communicate better with your partner. Being able to name those emotions makes the intensity go down so you're better able to keep calm even in a tense situation.Manage Emotions In Health WaysCouples often have problems in that they don't know how to cope with their own feelings, so they have emotional outbursts with their partner. Sometimes it's as simple as taking a deep breath before you choose to engage or say something. Just take a pause and give yourself some time.Express Emotions in Ways That Bring ConnectionWhen you understand your emotions, you can ask for what you need in a way that brings you closer. If you're sad, you can ask for comfort or encouragement. Also, look for signs that the other person has some emotions that need to be acknowledged. You might say something like, "gosh, you've seemed upset this week. Anything you want to talk about?" Acknowledging, labeling, and managing our feelings allows us to connect more with our partner and make sure both people's needs are met.Click here for a free printable Feelings Word List to help you better understand your emotional experiences.