How To Deal With Mean Moms: LCSW Clair Mellenthin on KUTV
LCSW Clair Mellenthin recently appeared on KUTV to discuss why some moms are unfortunately mean to other moms. She explains that it almost always comes back to insecurity: women who don't feel good about themselves as mothers or lack confidence are more likely to lash out and belittle others. Sometimes there is tension between moms who stay at home and moms who work. This too is usually fueled by insecurity or the need for a mom to try to "prove" she is better.What's a good way to deal with a mean mom you may encounter? One way would be to avoid such a person, but what if it's the mother of one of your child's friends? Clair says that if you find yourself in the company of a mom who begins insulting others, simply giving positive input can stop the conversation. She always explains that it's okay to be brave, say you're uncomfortable, or even change the subject completely."What if I'm the mean mom?"If you are a mom and find yourself being rude, judgmental, or mean to other moms, it's a good idea to look inward. What insecurity or pain is causing you to project negativity onto others? Try cultivating gratitude for small things in your life to counter the temptation to be mean to others. Finding ways to be happy and confident can help you be more kind and considerate to other moms.Watch the video for more about how to deal with mean moms.